We’ve all been there. The point when you feel worthless and pathetic as a result of continual indulgence in certain acts you personally declared forbidden. Hence, we beat ourselves nonstop afterwards.
Whether drug, alcohol, smoking, sex or any addiction at all, willpower alone just isn’t enough to stop it.
Most often, authors and therapists would simply state that addiction can be overcome by “willpower.” However, studies show that addiction is not simply an activity you engage in against your will; addiction impacts the brain and therefore has the ability to overwhelm you regardless of your willpower.
For addiction to ensue, the brain must’ve undergone series of rewiring through continuous indulgence in such act. Hence, it’s easier to break away from addiction in the earlier stage of its uprise than in the later stage.
Nevertheless, as an addict in strive for solution, heeding to the below tips will go a long way in easing your addiction and helping you gain a strong stance in your battle.
1. Admit your addiction and decide to quit
It’s often difficult to admit to our problems. However, admitting to a problem is the first step towards overcoming it. If you fail to admit your addictions, you’ll hesitate to grab opportunities that’ll set you free when they arise.
Quit denying yourself of the fact that you’re an addict. Bravely face your addiction and decide to quit. This will make your battle more practical — it’ll help you easily rise back up after a relapse.
2. Point out and Flee from your triggers
Regardless how often you strive to quit, there’s always a possibility of getting the urges the moment you are exposed to your triggers.
Is it being alone that triggers you to smoke? Strive to not be isolated. Is it the intoxicating smell of alcohol from the way home that triggers you to drink? Take a new path home. Likewise, If it’s the romance scenes from movies that triggers your urge for sex, destroy old discs and venture into new movie type with lesser explicit scenes.
3. Quit beating yourself and be committed to getting better
Because the brain was wired to such act over time, it’ll take time to overcome your addiction.
Relapses will certainly erupt. It’s normal to feel pathetic after a relapse. However, relapses can be helpful when viewed from the right perspective — it’ll help you identify the areas you’re still lacking and hence enable you focus chiefly on such areas.
Regardless how guilty or pathetic you may feel after a relapse, never give up your goal to overcome. Relapse a thousand times but never give up.
4. Share your problem
Quit isolating yourself from the world. Don’t be ashamed to discuss your problem with a caring friend/family — a problem shared is a problem half-solved.
Seek friends who will unconditionally check on you from time to time, friends who will also assist you by coming up with ways to combat your addiction.
They’ll serve as source of motivation and will help you remain strong — you wouldn’t want to keep giving them negative feedback whenever they check on you.
5. Develop new hobbies
Because you already find alcohol, cigarette, sex, etc, as a hobby, it’s important you create another that’ll serve as replacement. You can’t avoid something by quietly sitting and staring at it.
Develop a hobby to run to when trying to escape the urge.
Attempt engaging in any of the below activities:
- Play games or watch movies
- Try writing, singing, dancing, etc
- Hang out with friends (avoid being alone)
6. Occupy yourself
Urges for addiction often rise when boredom sets in. When you’re bored, your mind generally tends to wander to and fro random things; it’ll eventually land in your evil-hobby (addiction) — you’ll fantasize about it and the pleasure it yields you and hence, you’ll fail to realize when you’re captured by the urges.
Escape boring activities and make your mind too busy for an ill-thought. Engage in random tasks and leave no free time/space. These tasks could include doing the laundry, cleaning the house, practicing to improve your skills, etc. This will help lessen your chances of indulgence.
7. Quit revisiting your old life
There’s absolutely nothing you can do over the time and resources you’ve wasted upon your addiction. Visiting your old life nonstop will only make the memories haunt you over and over.
However, if there really be a need to reflect on your old life, strive to make jest of who you were and the things you did back then.
This will help you detest going back to being the “pathetic fool” you were.
8. Appreciate your improvement and be happy
Did you practice not drinking/smoking/having sex for a week and succeeded? Appreciate your effort and celebrate the little success.
Doing this will help you discover new-found happiness and hence, replace the pleasure indulgence yields you.
Strive to engage in activities that lifts your spirit. They’ll help you remain positive minded and hence prevent the addiction from causing more harm like emotional stress, depression, etc.
9. Be consistent
Most rehabs are ineffective in combating addiction because they last only but a short while. Therefore, the individual stays away from his/her addiction while the rehab lasts and hence, runs back to them after the rehab.
Overcoming any addiction is a long-term exercise. Avoiding your addiction for a day and running back to them the next day will definitely yield no positive result.
10. Strive to live your ideal lifestyle
When your to-do list is filled with tasks to be accomplished, when your life is filled with goals to be achieved, when you have destinations to attain, you’ll definitely be too occupied to give addiction a spot in your life.
Addiction not only cause physical, mental and social harm to you — It also has the ability of retarding your productivity and depriving you of your ideal lifestyle once you let it overwhelm you.
Quit taking your addiction lightly. Strive to take major steps in order to escape the lots and lots of misadventures which could ensue through nonstop indulgence. Best regards!
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