7 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself to Create the Life You Want

Consciously or unconsciously, all of us crave for a better life. Even though “better life” is a really subjective term and subtle way of saying “I want to be happy”, we’re all seeking it in one way or another.

The difference between people is the way they perceive and approach their life in general. Our thoughts, feelings, and actions shape both our personal and collective reality.

There are certain moments when we realize that our life is not running according to our plans. We realize that we’re either compromising our time for the things we don’t really enjoy, we allow energy vampires, a.k.a.toxic people to influence our minds and lives, and we ignore our gut instinct, the voice that yells and craves for change.

Change: The Challenge of the Mind

Change, change, change. For some of us, change is the biggest possible goal, yet we seem to fail miserably when trying to reach it. Why is building an exceptional life so hard?

Two aspects: First, we were never taught how to use our minds, feelings, and intuition to make good decisions. In fact, very few people make real decisions that are never abandoned or forgotten about.

If we haven’t received a formal education from our schoolteachers, or from our parents, or from the people we’ve met in our lives, how are we supposed to break through and build a fulfilling life?

Second, if we don’t understand our minds and life itself, if we’re limited to our strict perspective, principles, and physical environment, how can we expect to create change? It might not be always our faults.

Nobody has actually taught us how to concentrate, how to build sticking habits, how to meditate, or how to perform effective introspections. Yet, most successful people practice these habits on a daily basis because it empowers their lives in amazing ways.

But then again – why aren’t we changing these things right now? What stops us from doing it? I believe that most people are confused and overwhelmed. Instead of controlling life, life controls them.

Taking back the control means investing your emotions, time, energy, and focus. It requires a plan, but most importantly, it requires introspection. Simpler put, you need answers!

For that reason, in today’s post, I’m sharing 7 insightful questions that you should ask yourself in order to generate results that’ll help you set the foundations of the life you want.

1.    What’s Your Purpose?

This is one of the most difficult questions you can ask yourself. Your experiences, culture, environment, and personal standards are shaping the way you perceive and live your life. Some people have important purposes like helping others or creating real change in the world, while many others live chaotically, living their lives without understanding its real meaning.

A purpose is not a goal, so don’t mistake the two terms. Your purpose is the higher reason for which you were born and given the chance to experience Earth as a human being.

If you think about it, how come you weren’t born as one of the billion insects, birds, trees, or flowers? You could have been, yet you’re here, in this present moment, reading this important piece of information. You can process it, you can store it in your memory and use it later, and you can do all kinds of things with it. You’re very lucky to do that.

Here are some more concise questions that should help you acquire some answers:

• Why is your heart beating?
• How come you were born as a human and not an animal?
• Do you have a purpose?
• Have you stopped seeking your purpose?
• Did you ever seek it?
• If you did, what is your purpose?
• Are you aligned with your purpose?
• Are your present focus, energy, and time spent on achieving your purpose?

So instead of ignoring or postponing these questions, I’d suggest tackling them with faith and courage.

You’re the only one who can figure out the unique purpose of your presence, and in order to get it, you’ll need to start seeking it both by asking for answers within and by searching it outside (do new things, experience new feelings, do good to others, see how your strengths can create change, etc.)

2.    From 1 to 10, How Exceptional are You Right Now?

Our standards define us. If you aim high in life, you’ll attract greatness. If you aim low, you’ll reap what you sow, which is low energy and effort that leads to unsatisfying results.

If you want to live a good life, an important life, and a fulfilling life, you’ll need to become exceptional. Become the best version of yourself, and you’ll tackle all your challenges with brio.

Now, rate your performance in this very moment. Compare the ideal version of yourself, the exceptional version) from the future versus the present self. From point A to B, on a scale from 1 to 10, where are you?

“To achieve success, you must change both your mindset and behavior. Exceptional individuals are kindhearted, effective, focused, productive, knowledgeable, and skilled in almost every area of their lives, so start aiming for greatness and greatness will come to you.” – Jane King, CEO at EssayWritingLand, a writing service that helps students establish, plan, and accomplish personal goals.

3.    Do You Have Precise Short and Long-Term Goals?

A roadmap is a necessary aspect when you head down the road. Life’s exactly the same. If you want to change, you need to have an exact goal that you can attract.

The planning of your goals is critical to ensure you’re on the right track. Your subconscious mind receives orders. If you want to accomplish a goal, keep thinking about it and have a lot of faith that you’re going to make it. If your subconscious takes your desire seriously, it’ll provide you with answers and opportunities that’ll help you create the change you seek.

4.    Are You Sovereign?

Being sovereign means being the ruler of your mind and life. You see, your thoughts, emotions, and actions are interconnected. Thoughts cause feelings and feelings cause action.

The biggest issue is when our thoughts, emotions, and actions are in disharmony and in conflict. Our brains and hearts send conflicting commands that keep us unconsciously confused and stuck.

Study your mind and become self-aware. Catch your thoughts, identify your feelings, and detect the problems. Use your willpower to break through problems and keep your thoughts, emotions, and actions aligned.

5.    Are You Grateful and Loving?

If your vibration is high, you’ll attract positive change. If you’re low on the vibrational scale, which means that you’re filled with negative emotions such as anger, guilt, and hate, you’ll only attract negative things.

To create real change, you’ll need to align your heart and mind with powerful states such as gratefulness and love. Love everyone, including yourself, because after all, we are all the part of the same thing. The same underlying energy keeps us alive and incredibly complex.

Treat yourself, your goals, your problems, and the other people around you with love and gratitude, appreciate what you’ve already got, and life will immediately start manifesting incredible opportunities that’ll change your life forever.

6.    Are You Truly Ready?

Before you start making real change in your life, be very certain that you’re absolutely ready. To constantly work on a goal or purpose, you’ll need to commit emotionally and endure the pain. Yes, change is often painful, so these are the costs you’ll have to pay.

Getting out of your comfort zone is the first step to saying, “I’m ready”. If your intentions are to lose 10 pounds but you eat more and more food each day, you’re not sovereign and you’re not ready. Therefore, before getting to it, ask yourself…” Am I truly ready to do everything it takes to reach my goal/fulfill my purpose?”

7.    What Are You Waiting For?

Lastly, you need to identify the problems that stop you from making breakthroughs in different areas of your life. Here are some additional questions that should help you identify your strongest barriers to success.

• What stops you?
• What are the triggers that make you lazy/procrastinate?
• What habits, thoughts, and feelings have given you the biggest problems in the past?
• Why don’t you start living the life you want right now?

Answer objectively and note down each problem and barrier. Now that you’re aware of them, use your willpower and personal strength to overcome them. It’s not simple, but it’s definitely worth it.

Takeaways

You can’t change your life overnight. You need to take it step-by-step and begin your journey with the proper attitude. Make peace with your mind and start leveraging it better, create room for introspection, and take massive action until your life looks and feels exactly like you wanted

About The Author

This is a guest post by Samantha R. Gilbert, a journalist and a blogger from New York. She likes to watch people and their behaviors, believes it can tell much about a person. Samantha loves to talk about modern art, education and adventures. Find her on Facebook and Twitter.