Back in my high school days, I was an insanely shy geek on so many levels — I have questions but don’t ask. I know solutions but rarely answer. I like people but barely speak up. As a result, I was easily underestimated and trampled upon.
Looking back now, it all feels totally pathetic.
Though high school is a pretty petty example to use, shyness, or better still, timidness, can cause massive career disasters in real life essence. Shyness sucks. Yeah, it does. However, dwelling in your shyness and letting your amazing, life-changing ideas get hidden from the world sucks even more!
Just like yourself, it’s important to note that even most of the outspoken individuals out there once battled shyness too. However, with the application of few principles, they practiced and overcame it. Guess what, you can do the same!
Hence, inculcate these simple yet helpful tips to instantly quit smiling sheepishly in public for no damn reason.
1. Upgrade your communication
As a shy individual, most threats you are likely to be prone to will be as a result of excessive quietness — people will take credit for your achievements or easily trample on you with no hesitation because they know you’d barely throw a fist.
Speak up more often. Don’t always play the cute, silent puppy.
To boost your communication, do these –
- Give your opinions with no hesitation when someone asks for it
- Use your talents to help others thereby striking up a communication
- Practice getting acquainted with random strangers once in awhile
- Speak at public gatherings and occasions often
- Enlighten friends on your ideas
2. Discover and utilize your skills
I always thought I was never good enough. I never believed I had anything special in me. I overrated people and always considered myself uncool and pathetic. Looking back now, that was really uncool and pathetic. Well, it’s all changed now. I rock and I know it!
The fact is, you are special and you’ve got special abilities. However, when you are easily overwhelmed by peoples’ specialties, it becomes extremely difficult to discover yours. Hence, when you pin it in your mind that you’re not good enough, you’ll easily be intimidated by people who focused o their own specialties.
Strive to discover your passion, your unique talents, skills and abilities and act on them. This will help you realize how awesome and unique you truly are and hence, it’ll help you to retain your sanity amidst strangers.
3. Socialize More
You are shy primarily because you find it difficult to blend in — you spend most time alone or with friends and family. Hence, when you meet strangers (new people), you feel awkward and easily run out of words. Right? I know I’m right — I was there too remember?
Hence, in order to beat your shyness, get used to people’s company. Spend more time with friends (new and old friends alike).
When you Engage with different individuals from different locations and with different personalities, you’ll learn to express your own personality freely with no hesitation or second thoughts about how people will react.
4. Lend helping hand to people
Help people anyhow, anyway, and by any means possible — this is an amazing way to easily meet new people who’d be pleased to have you as friends.
Don’t easily assume people will tag you as a “show off” if you attempt to help. Learn to exceed your cycle. Meet new people on a regular basis and utilize your available resources to assist them in one way or the other.
5. Flow with the clique
When you’re hanging out with friends and everyone is telling stories, cracking jokes and having fun, don’t act lifeless by staying mute and smiling sheepishly all through.
Instead, come up with jokes/stories that’d amaze everyone and attract all the attention to yourself. Dealing with such attention will boost your confidence when addressing a larger audience.
6. Pay little or no attention to mockery and bullies
In an attempt to leave your comfort zone of shyness and embrace the world, it’s important to note that you’re bound to encounter mockery from shallow minded fellows — either on the basis of your looks, attitude, dress sense, etc.
However, never run back into the dark room behind closed doors in order to escape the mockery — this will only make it go on and on.
Instead, pay little or no attention and focus only on the important things. Or better still, bravely confront the bullies and leave them intimidated.
Though they may fail to instantly admit being intimidated by you, they will gradually quit or lessen the frequency of the mockery with time.
Note: Confronting bullies doesn’t hint at you picking up a fight with them. There’re tons of other smart and healthy means of confrontation — like outsmarting them or messing up their brains and turning them against each other (bullies are usually dumb).
7. Practice, Practice and Practice
Becoming brave doesn’t happen overnight. However, you never know how brave you truly are until you test and push your limits.
Though you may still feel shy after practicing the above tips for a day or two, the braveness is gradually accumulating. Hence, the only way to totally overcome your shyness and become insanely brave is by practicing the above tips nonstop.
Embrace the world with open arms but before you do, build up the courage that’d pull you through dangers and adversities.
Gradually beat your shyness, showcase your talents, amaze the world and just then, you’ll become absolutely unstoppable.
Just then, you’ll become absolutely unstoppable! Good luck!
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