Stress is amongst the numerous circumstances that often tend to deprive us of life’s many pleasures.
Stress exists in certain forms — there’s the stress you get from having piled up engagements and unending workloads. Also, there’s the mental and emotional stress which often does the most harm to your health, career and life. The emotional stress is the stress-type being discussed in this article.
Numerous lifestylists have described stress as the biggest health threat to humans. Apart from depriving you of your ideal lifestyle, stress is a key factor resulting to many health hazards in the likes of heart disease, diabetes, asthma, etc, as seen from WebMD.
A stressed individual is hardly ever productive or mentally stable — you suffer severe depression and anxiety and therefore find it difficult to sober up put in your best effort at work.
Nevertheless, what are some common causes of emotional stress? How can you escape stress? Read on.
3 Ways you get emotionally stressed
Though emotional stress is sure to creep in through numerous other ways, below are three common ways to take note of:
1. By living to impress
While trying to impress a friend, a workmate or anyone at all, you are forced to leave yourself and live for them. By so doing, you’ll end up engaging in lots of physically and mentally draining activities in order to live up to standards.
Imitating others and moving in line with the clique often feels good. However, when push comes to show and the people you’re impressing seize to find you fascinating, they’ll cast you out like a piece of junk.
Just then, you’ll try to fall back in your own skin and start over but it’s often too late and you end up living with the pain and depression that erupts afterward.
2. By comparing yourself with others
Everyone is special and unique and exhibit certain skills. However, humans often tend to disregard resources within arm’s reach. As a result, we tend to ignore our specialties and drool over that of others when comparing ourselves with them.
This, in turn, makes us feel physically and emotionally dissatisfied with ourselves, and hence it leads to imitation which ends up sadly as explained above.
Comparison with others makes you view everyone else as awesome and yourself as pathetic. This causes emotional stress and depression because you’d be like “why is everyone cool except me?” “why am I the weird one?” This, in turn, prevents you from realizing your uniqueness and greatly retards your confidence.
3. Through Needless overthinking
As it’s often said, excessive thinking leads to the creation of problems that weren’t initially present.
When frequently engaging in needless thoughts, we make assumptions to back up our imaginations. We give little problems big definitions with the nonstop use of what-ifs. As a result, we tend to find fault with practically everything. We disregard possibilities and are consumed by fear.
Without even trying, we tend to get overwhelmed by the fear of failing. This act often tends to cause constant demoralization and depression, thereby causing emotional breakdown and stress.
5 Ways to escape stress
It’s not stress that kills us, it’s our reaction to it. – Hans Selye
1. Be yourself always
You’re unique. Everyone is never going to like you for being you. People will despise and talk trash about you without knowing you well enough. Regardless, never allow this to emotionally drain you and hinder you from living your ideal life.
You’re the CEO of your life
As a CEO, you can’t expect to not have rivals. Everyone is never going to walk your path. However, the least you can do is to embrace those who do and ignore those who don’t.
Pay little or no attention to critics and trash talks. Do what pleases you. Strive to see and chase the brighter side of life always.
2. Take one step at a time
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
The moment you begin chasing your dreams, there’s always this heat you get running through your veins, urging you to get all tasks accomplished at once and making you seek immediate success. Most often, this happens the moment you see successful people enjoying the luxuries — you tend to ignore the time, trials and circumstances they passed through.
Hence, you engage in excessive multitasking, jump into every trade, try to master every skill and hence, you end up being great at nothing. As a result, you suffer severe emotional distress and depression.
Take a single step and make it count. Take another and consistently maintain the pace. Just then, you’ll discover impossible itself says “I’m Possible.”
You’ll be amazed how fun the stressful tasks can be the moment you do your best, let things happen, and find fun in whatever you do.
3. Discover your peace
Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop. – Ovid
Discover what calms your soul, eases your mind and refreshes your brain.
Regardless how work-loaded and tasking your daily routine may be, no matter how annoying your colleagues or boss may be, irrespective of how occupied your to-do list may be, learn to set apart a time to enjoy your peace.
Sleep, movie, music, socialization or anything other than work that makes you feel at peace, do it.
Hard work is the key to success. However, being all about work can end up depriving you of happiness which is a priority, cause you mental and emotional stress and in turn make you less productive.
When you work, make it count. When you’re off work, make the fun count.
4. Quit beating yourself and be grateful
You can set goals and fail to accomplish them. You can fail to reach certain expectations. You can decide to quit a certain habit but later find yourself at indulgence once again.
It’s only natural to feel bad about yourself and possibly beat yourself a little. However, avoid going extreme and learn to cut yourself some slacks.
Endlessly blaming and beating yourself can eventually end up depriving you the lessons to be learned from the mistakes — this itself is the real mistake.
Appreciate yourself and your abilities for the tasks you’ve accomplished. Work harder towards the ones you couldn’t reach.
5. Move on
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. – Valerie Bertinelli
Whatever happens, whenever it happens, and however it happens, as long as you’re still able to breathe, get back up and keep kicking — enrage your inner anger and kick harder than you ever did.
Life never stopped when you’re happy, it definitely won’t even if you hit rock bottom and fail to rise.
Avoid dwelling on the past mistakes, in the failed attempts, in the dark phase, and in the frustration.
Let everything happen. Least you can do is to adjust your pattern to cope with the new flow.
While drowning, you can’t save yourself by diving deeper in, you’ve got to swim to the seashore, away from the sharks and crocodiles.
Work with all your might, but never forget to live life to the fullest.
Have you faced series of emotional stress? How’d you cope with it? Which tip on/off the list would you recommend to aid others to live a stress-free life? Feel free to drop your opinions in the comments section below. Best Regards!
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