In Highschool, I was an awfully shy and quiet kid.
I was unable to express who I was because of all the anxiety I had. I could barely look people in the eyes, I spoke softly, and I was overly cautious of what everybody thought of me.
I became so frustrated with my inability to communicate who I was…that I spiraled into a deep depression. I used to bike around my neighborhood all the time wondering why I was such a failure. This continued until I was sick of feeling worthless and I wanted to change.
I picked up a
This meant I forced myself to take a public speaking class, got myself in the habit of approaching and conversing with random strangers, cashiers, tellers, and putting myself in social situations by joining clubs or going out to events.
I can nonchalantly write about it now but trust me, it was tough… At the time, when I spoke to strangers, my anxiety was so bad, it always felt like my life was in danger! That is how much anxiety I had. I remember always trying to talk myself out of putting into practice these habits whenever I got super nervous and timid. Every time I spoke to a new stranger, I had this feeling of apprehension in my gut that made me sick to my stomach.
Every nerve in my body wanted to stay safe and avoid these situations but I was determined to change. Slowly but surely, talking to people got easier and easier.
Now, 10 years later, I am a lot better at expressing who I am. I can speak to strangers with ease, speak at public events, and just be myself. I made it a point to do these things every day until I no longer had to think about it and it became natural for me. I want to pass along this secret that completely revamped my lifestyle.
As stated by Greek philosopher, Aristotle, we are what we repeatedly do.
Our lifestyles are simply made up of our repeated actions. The smallest, seemingly unimportant daily tendencies, make up all of our lives.
Don’t believe me?
Take a look at your lifestyle. What do you do every day from the moment you wake up to when you sleep. Do you brush and floss your teeth? Hit the gym? Read books? Work? Eat junk food? How has these habits created your current life?
When you break down your life to all of your daily tendencies, you can see how your lifestyle is created and generally predict where your life is going.
If you want to be a person in great shape with an amazing body, you would have to evaluate your daily habits. You would look at what foods you put into your body every day, how often you exercise every week, your sleep patterns, how often you drank alcohol, the portions of the food you ate, etc.
If you want to change your lifestyle, look no further than changing your daily consistent habits. These small changes, that seem so minor and useless, over a long period of time, will accumulate and produce your desired lifestyle.
Try it out! Look at what kind of lifestyle you would want to live and start to create the daily habits to support that lifestyle. I understand how hard it could be to create new habits but an easy trick to develop them is to start with the smallest, simplest, easy habit as possible.
When I started to implement my habit of talking to strangers, I would make it a habit to ask every cashier at every checkout how their day was. If they said okay, and the conversation died, I was okay with that as long as I asked them how their day was. It was easy enough to get me started.
So there you have it.
The secret to creating your desired lifestyle. Habits have exponentially changed my life and I am so grateful to have discovered how to evaluate and implement my habits. I know if you are positive and stick with creating habits, you will generate the lifestyle of your dreams.
I am absolutely sure of it 🙂
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